Thursday, January 12, 2012

Body Image : What Size is Beautiful



Most of my readers know I'm a curvy girl. I was watching the evening news about size 6 being considered plus size in the modeling industry.This has to be wrong I thought to myself. I've watched so many friends deal with body image issues / eating disorders thin and overweight. Our end result is different yet the pressure of being some form of perfect has brought you there. Lets take a look at the story that has everyone talking video platformvideo managementvideo solutionsvideo player I was talking to a friend who made a wonderful observation. When she asked this question of me " What was it that made you think you weren't beautiful, when did you start believing it ?" I couldn't remember particulars really. I knew it happened around Junior High. I was told that I was ugly and believed it. Over the years it would be little things that would convince me.  Im striving to shake those self defeating thought daily. Super models of 20 years ago were between a size six and four. Is it wrong that someone like Beverly Johnson would be considered plus size now? Yes it is wrong the insanity of it  is right.  She is one of the most beautiful women in the world. In my ups and downs of weight loss I've learned one valuable lesson. You have to love yourself as you are now.  This is a struggle for allot of us who are told that daily that we fall short of a standard.  In the grand scheme of things this isn't about fat and thin its about being a women. We are all beautiful mosaic pieces in different colors and shapes that form a masterpiece. My advice to you put this on your mirror read it every morning. Its an excerpt taken from a course in Miracles written by Marianne Williamson
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.' We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." (A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles", Harper Collins, 1992. From Chapter 7, Section 3])
Be strong my beauties in that big crazy world out there. Remember to shine brightly no matter what. 

3 comments:

  1. Comment via Facebook Kori Sheldon Davenport Hinkle
    Wow size 6 Plus sized...that is just damn dumb...and to say Cindy and Christy would be plus sized if modeling today is shameful!!!! We wonder why so many women need depression meds...society puts too much pressure on us. Love who u are no matter what size you are!!!

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  2. @Kori
    It really is insanity and very dumb ! Seriously the pressure to achieve a abnormal standard it daunting.

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  3. Lovely that you do this. I've started "shunning" (blocking, unsubscribing, leaving a swarm comment) on the plethora of mean girl sites. I'm horrified that educated women consider it pithy fun to poke fun at others, even in as anemically as the sociopathic who wore it better.

    Every little kid wants to be a princess or a superhero and in their DNA is some damning stuff that judges who's prettiest, fairest, slimmest.

    Grossly obese is not healthy and yes some people are just fat ... not their doctor, not going to simmer my judgement on that. The rest of us are not living in a silly black and white Twilight Zone episode.

    The issue is that amongst the size 4's and 3's and 0's are a bunch of tortured women (men too) that are hiding bulimia, anorexia, cutting, depression ... yes, you can be skinny minny and happy and kind too. If only that were the usual.

    A great pair of Spanx, impeccable manners and a great big smile will overcome a jutting hipbone.

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